- Janeymac26
- Posts: 3
I'm new to this. I just wanted to talk about my little girl. She died last year at just 4 days old. It seems that it happens alot but no one really talks about it and as a result you end up fee ling alone. I just wanted to say that anyone going through this at the moment, you're never alone.
My daughter was born at 26 weeks by emergency c section and she had alot of complications. In the end , the damage was too severe for her to have any quality of life and her dad and I made the horrific decision to withdraw life support. She was placed in my arms then for the first time and passed away 2 hours later.
It is something we live with every day. We will grieve for the rest of our lives for our tiny daughter but we are learning to live around it . What I'm saying is, if you're going through this now, take baby steps. Take your time and don't expect to feel better than you do. It takes time. I reckon if i live to be 100 years old, I will still weep as though it just happened and if I had 50 kids there would still be one missing. You do learn to live with it. The grief that feels too big for your body does fade in time. You do begin to function again . I know it feels easier to hide away but try not to. Talk about your baby to anyone who will listen and surround yoyr self with people who love you. Take your time. Stop and take a look back every now and then and you will see how far you have come. No one can tell you how to do this. Everyone is different but talking helps. You may be surprised by people. Sometimes the ones you think wilk be there for you are not and then comfort can come from the most surprising of places. Remember your little baby often and be proud of your self. You created life. No matter how brief, it's still life. Be proud of your baby too. I think its important to recognise that neonatal death is horribly common and it's important not to feel isolated. That's really all I wanted to say.
